Sorry for the late response, but I heard there may be a work-around to getting both the OG scene and the thank you scene after Araj. I don't have the save anymore so I can't test it yet myself, but supposedly once you get the OG scene, don't long rest and then talk to Araj, refuse her request regarding Astarion, then long rest and the thank you scene should play. Supposibly the person got it to work that way. Idk. Here's hoping Patch 3 fixes the romance dialogue greetings not updating.
Thanks for replying!
Hm.. I just went back and tried to do it this way - got the OG confession and ran straight to MRT, spoke with Araj, refused right away (didn't discuss it with Astarion further) and went to camp afterwards. No thank you scene though, unfortunately and no changed greetings afterwards, either.. Though it does make me wonder, because once you get the confession and hoof it into MRT without another long rest, once you do rest after speaking with her Gale will be all "!!!" because he wants to be talked down from killing himself and if you do that scene, it's basically a 'rest scene' same as confession/thank you scenes (i.e. you go automatically to sleep and new day rises and you can't do anything else).. As far as I can tell, it triggers when ytou first arrive at MRT, so now I'm wondering if perhaps that's what is overwriting the supposed thank you scene with Astarion.
I guess in order to check that, I will need to dig out an earlier save, hoof it to MRT without sleeping OR confession scene -> long rest -> hopefully get Gale sorted and out of the way -> rest again -> hopefully get Astarion's confession -> talk with Araj -> rest again -> hopefully get thank you scene -> hopefully get them damned greetings updated..
Oh well. Guess I know what I'll be doing tomorrow then! Will report back with further results and/or if per chance patch 3 will just.. resolve this (I wish hah!).