"i see the lich hit the monk, but i think my game hangs after that scene... i can click and escape so that i can reload. i've tried 3 times, same result. it appears to have stopped, should i just wait it out?"
I don't think the delay should be that long; the monk should run away, leaving you to clear the church. It sounds like a problem with the cut scene. Try running the configuration program and switching to software mode, and maybe lower the resolution, until you get past that point. If that doesn't help, you could try re-installing the game and
patch.
Zip or otherwise backup your saved games folder to another location first, just in case. Then un-install, re-boot, shut down all non essential programs (especially anti-virus), re-install the game, perhaps start the game and quit, re-boot, shut down all non essential programs, install the patch, re-boot, shut down all non essential programs, start the game. This procedure is a bit over-cautious, but the best way to avoid install problems.