Larian Studios Forums General Chat Chat (Anything) experience or knowledge?

I'm curious what people think is more important in a romantic relationship; having experience (ie dating other people beforehand) or knowledge (ie knowing how to treat your partner right)?

Keep in mind, that experience doesn't always bring knowledge, and you don't necessarilly need experience to be knowledgable.

So, which would you rather have?

I don't think I quite understand. What does "experience" mean if not knowing how to treat someone? If I met someone who was "inexperienced" but treated me well, it'd be like buying a nice new car, as opposed to a crappy used car. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />

By experience, I simply mean they have dated other people before you.

easy!

Everyone is unique. Every person in this world has it´s own habits and things that like/dislike. So as far as I am concerned I prefer to be with a person who knows me, how to treat me and what I like/dislike. And trust me this is something you can not learn it even if you have 100 relationships before because getting to know someone is all the hard work and the most important thing in a realtionship.

Why look who's back <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" /> -- Been writing anything lately? <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />

Hi Mickey

It's really nice to see you back.
But your question is difficult (as usually) and i will think about it later.

Barta

dude, u're back! where u been? dating? <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" /> or writing a book on dating?

personally i feel the focus should be THE person & not knowledge or experience. just like what Luc said. no fore-knowledge can help nor would past experience in predicting disasters. maybe what u can look into is HOW to handle WHAT when it happens. if it does, that is. but then anything can.

wish i can help but u know me; totally single & untied. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Wow, I must say I am surprised and touched that people notised my absence. Thanks, guys. I needed the smile.

I've been pretty busy as of late and haven't been online much. Unfortunately it's not gonna change anytime soon, as I have a lot of real life work to be doing.

Yeah, I've been writing. Well, I've been forumlating stuff in my head. I just need time to get it all written down, but I need *my* computer for that.

Hello, mickey, welcome back.

And, to be honest, I still don't quite understand your question ... could you make it a little bit clearer now ?

Experienced: They've been around and dated many people. They don't know you particularly well but they're willing to give you a try. They might piss you off from time to time, severly sometimes too, but they know how to handle relationships and can probably work their way through difficult patches.

Knowledgable: Your best friend. They know your deepest secrets, your likes, dislikes, favourite food, place, etc. but they've never dated anyone else and don't know how a relationship works.


I'd have to go for experienced. You can learn someone in time, but you need to go through a lot of [nocando] to understand relationships.


EDIT: Wow! Looks like I'm alone in my vote.

Okay, let me try it this way.

Let's say you have two people interested in.

Person A has dated people before they met you, but still is unaware of how relationships should be. For example, they can't quite understand the concept of monogamy.

Person B has never dated anyone before, but they know how to treat you with respect and how you want to be treated.

My question is, who do you choose?

person B all the way! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />

this would be a good indicator...


Leave person A for another person A type.
Stick to person B , and think of it as training a brand new puppy! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/kitty.gif" alt="" />
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Aaah... I misunderstood the question too. I didn't realise monogamy was part of the equation.

Interesting looking at myself. As person B, I wasn't manogamous. Now that I'm an A, I am manogamous, but not being blind to problems.

It like the age old question (in my rotting school) : money, looks, or personality?






and Potatoe is all of them <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />

Well, monogamy generally goes with being in a relationship, or else there will be problems in said relationship. Unless, of course, both parties involved have agreed otherwise.

Absolutely! What I mean is that I thought the lack of manogamy would be part of the "experienced" relationship, not the "knowledgable". I saw "experienced" as healthy relationship, but possible conflicting personality and "knowledgable" as perfect friend but likely to stuff up relationship-wise.

"I saw "experienced" as healthy relationship, but possible conflicting personality and "knowledgable" as perfect friend but likely to stuff up relationship-wise." handefood

HEF, do u mean knowledgeable person tends to have pre-conceived ideas on how to 'handle' relationship though those ideas may be damaging, especially if they're myths? won't it be better to just admit that one doesn't know & be willing to be taught to relate to the other person one desires to be attached to? heck, one has to start from 'no prior relationship' to be where that experienced person is.

what i mean is that either the person u want to be or u expect from the other party will have to learn to be realistic & patient for the other person to fully develop a better understanding. hence more intimate level of relationship. well ..... u know. *shrugs*

if there is willingness from both parties on being attached & committed emotionally, then there has to be willingness to endure whatever obstacle that will come to the relationship. if the bind doesn't tie, then it's no bind at all.


spoken-like-somebody-who-has-no-prior-relationship janggut giving his 2 cents <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

I'd choose this, but that's my personal taste. The reason is simply that I'm not experienced ... I don't think I would like to have a girl-friend at my side who has far more experience than I have ... also I wouldn't like to be compared to her former "lovers", so to say.

Since I've never had a girl-friend so far, my choice is quite clear. The problem is, that the older I get, the fewer thare (short for "there are" <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" /> ) are "unexperienced" female singles as well. And the more there are "experienced" females who had had one or more relationships already.

There is always one exception from that : Love.

Personality. Definitively.