I too wrote this offline - sorry if i'm repeating anything.I think you are psychologically affirming what you deeply doubt. No doubt, DAD. I said crystal clear, and I meant it.
It's not because I don't pull every line out of a post that I don't "analyse". But I'll do it your way now:
This is the true debate, and if you were correct then why did I feel hurt rather than feeling corrected? The word "correct" is completely irrelevant - this discussion is about your tone and your attitude.
If I did not know the difference then why did you not post the difference?
You did not read a single page in a single book on criticism, and your condescending statements do not shake my faith in my
solid knowledge.That's quite an unfounded judgement there, DAD. Please, tell me, what books
are in my bookcase?
And again, you still don't get the point: I don't want to shake your faith in your solid knowledge - it's not your knowledge
that's the issue here.
It is you who need to study the difference between objective criticism and insults in the linguistic form.You said "attack" in the post I replied to - don't twist it.
Your affirmation without logical rationalisation does not prove that she was right or wrong, and in fact you have just
joined a very long line of defenders who did not study the problem at all. Study the problem? You suggest that the line of defenders provide you with a file with analysis, conclusions etc
before they can criticize what you write, while at the same time you only need your faith in your solid knowledge to back up
all of your statements?
You do not even show that you do understand the meaning of each insult in the list that you have so eloquently repeated.
What is the meaning of rudeness?
What is the meaning of a patronising behaviour?
What is the meaning of condescending behaviour?So now you want me to prove I understand the language I speak before you value anything that I say?
In fact the true meanings apply perfectly to your post being directed at me, but they do not apply to my post directed to
the “ToTheGame” Remember I suggested you should follow the advice you give to everybody else? Because I think I just missed your logic
rationalisation.
Naturally, you have endorsed vulgarity and called it criticism.Vulgarity? Kiya's reply to your e-mail? <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/puppyeyes.gif" alt="" />
Let's have a look at that post you claim to be the cause of the mess you're in. For the sake of analysing:
My opinion:
Well, no Amen, no respect and no seconding to Dad's mail: It was arrogant, rude and counter productive IMO.
You may disagree, but many people agree with this statement. And the following part is essential:
You had valid points in there DAD, I don't criticise them - but I criticise your tone highly, it was unnecessary, the
developer was willing to help us.
Vulgarity? Attacking? I'm waiting for some logic rationilisation here.
I doubt the admin to whom you directed both of your posted mails had these open ears and willingness.
Which is very reasonable considering her previous arguments.
Now, you don't understand how anyone could criticize the mail you sent to ToTheGame. Here we go:
First of all there's the list of relevant and irrelevant achievements by which you seem to try and convince Erik (and anyone
else for that matter) that you know what you're talking about. First of all, the first reaction of most people to this is
pretty negative: they immediately get the impression some big shot, a "know-it-all" is talking to them. And most people don't
like "know-it-all"s. The moment they have this impression they don't
want to listen anymore. "know-it-all"s are
considered each of the words you suggested me to look up in the dictionnary.
Second, do you really think someone needs such a list to guarantee credibility? As if arguments lose their value without such
a list...?
Believe me that this would be a very wise decision, at least until you have studied the art of PollingHonestly, have you?
Rift Runner reached over 6000 votes, indicating that SPAM or not, it had the highest attention and a very dedicated fan
base, which speaks for itself as being most wanted. What you did to that poll was a perfect screw-up.Speaks for itself as most wanted? Yes, by the few people in the world who belong to a fanbase, a fanbase that knows of the
site, a few people who's hundreds of votes stand for one person. Same goes for the downvotes. That's what those 6000 votes
proved, "most wanted" by some people who happened to be "in the right place at the right time". If Erik realised that as
well, he probably considered the sentence after that pretty offending. They tried to do something about it and you call it a
screw-up; you think they are going to say thank you for that? You never even "speak your opinion", you state then as "facts".
That's again each of those words in the dictionnary.
Is that enough analysing for you? Because I'm getting a little tired. To conclude, I'll just introduce another point at which
we disagree. You find me insulting. I prefer the word "confronting". And you might consider not to open a new thread about
that - nobody wants to read any of this anymore, and I don't think they need a diplome to respect that.
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