Not all, perhaps, but I don't glamourize little girls. Most of them are not sweet, innocent, or remotely cute; many learn the art of back-stabbing, cattiness, and general viciousness at a young age (and carry on right into puberty and adulthood). Little girls are easily one of the most vicious animals in the world.
A lot has to do with socialisation and gender role - girls are not encouraged to carry out aggressions in an open way - as little boys (still) are. Gender role as a prison plays a terrible role - not only parents, teachers or other adults - all those, who never questioned themselves, but "grew" into a role and are not aware of this, are parts of this "gender conspiracy".
So, no chance to change? There is - but it requires a lot of work, self-awareness, self-retroperspective. And one question then still remains: "DO I want to change - or DO I prefer to take up/keep and pass on this unhealthy form of behaviour?" Even if this person, fully aware of all consequences, chooses the latter as main approach towards world => she/he should then be willing to pay the price => getting back a taste of own medicine. And yes => at this point, the game starts again, sincere approach becomes very very difficult. Weapons are sharpened, barricades set up, oil is cooking, Pyrrhus comes.
BTW, young males are not better - they only choose to use their fists to create black eyes or bruises, is there a difference? Girls use their verbal weapons, as we are encouraged to be soooooo social, cute and whatsoever. C.G. Jung says this: there is a male and a female part within ourselves (anima/animus), neglecting/imprisoning one of it and letting only the other one act => not good, causes inner/outer harm.
I wish, parents would reflect on this or teachers. Wish psychology would not be so abstract in school lessons.
