Hello everyone,
I haven't posted a long time on this website but I'd like to give my answer to these questions.
Kiya states:
"As the older members already know, I'm a newbie in this internet world - and I have wondered very often, why the sentence "get a life" is used so often in this virtual world and very seldom meant in a friendly way.
1.Well, what is this "life I/you/others should get"?
2.What does it involve?
3.What does it exclude?
4.What is your personal definition of a "life to get"?
5.Why is a "life" (spending time on the internet) not a "life" - and if it is not a "life", what is it then?
Please, try to stick to the questions I posted - I really want to understand. Refrain from spamming if you can - I've tried very often to understand the meaning - up to now: in vain.
Kiya"
This phrase is often used when someone is spending too much time on one task to the exclusion of almost everything else. It is also used when someone is doing the same things every day. To get a life is to constantly open yourself to what is new. Basically, if you're doing the same things over and over again, you are not living but dying because death is stagnation where nothing is changing. In reality, it is hard to sustain this for a long time because the natural state of things is change. There is off course those who are living but who feel drained both physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. They are alive but there is no life in their lives. Living 'becomes automatic, a dead process.'...Locked by conditioning. There's no freshness, vitality, and more importantly. awareness. It's almost as if you're sleepwalking through life dragging yourself from one day to the other. I know it because I've experienced it before. I'd like to quote from Instant Analysis by Joe Lieberman, "The more automated your life is-the wider the gap between reality and your perception of reality, moving you farther into your own little world. Most serious mental illness can find their root in this gap." So to get a life may also mean to look at the truth of what's happening...to wake up and smell the coffee so to speak. A person who has no life is run by conditioning. They may also have some habits that are hard to break such as being online too much, watching too much tv, spending too much time inside, etc...Of course, if you're someone who is like Leonardo Da Vinci who I think spent most of his day painting, then you have a life?!? A person who has passion for what he/she is doing will bypass sleep sometimes to do it but hey...he/she loves it and would do it even if they didn't receive any monetary compensation. It's their passion. It's their life. May they rise up and live it. Find your passion...eh?
Thank you.
