Larian Studios Forums General Chat I'm leaviong for a week

There will be a day that the sthrengt of mankind will fail, thall all forms of fellowship will be lost.
But it is not this day, this day we fight!!

Not a good quote, but it was one of the best parts from rotk for me <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Maybe you're right @ the_bean, but I kinda miss the atmosphere, dqueene and BG are gone for a while, kiya left us, dragon isn't here anymore, drakonis barely has time to post, I never see lews anymore lately... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/puppyeyes.gif" alt="" />

yeah..
and it get's worse,
Wait until your get maried!
then you will losse a lot of friends and people you know..

why is that?
What has to be the difference between marriage and just having a girlfriend?
I mean, I have a girlfriend, and I still have all my friends, so whats different when you mary?

I miss some of these persons too, specially Kiya.
But i was happy to see people back as Setharmon and Deathatthedoor.
Some people can't be very often in the forum as Carrie, Drakonis, Shyon, Lews, and maybe Bernhard, but they did not leave !

The atmosphere of the forum changes from time to time, because there are always new members with their own personality.
In a few weeks, we will get the demo of Beyond and i am sure that a lot of "old members" would be back.

jvb, if now you don't feel good and if you would prefer to stop posting.
Feel free to go away for a while but please COME BACK !

Barta

no one ever really leaves this place <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />
But I still want to know what so different about marriage

You learn that as you get older young one. Women seem to start to 'dissaprove' of your male friends when you get married.
I'd miss ya too but I'm sure you'll be back. Look at me! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

yeah, but unfortunatly, you stayed away for a very long time <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/puppyeyes.gif" alt="" />

i see it alot in my surroundings.
lot of my friends are married or getting married.
what i saw was that your sosial life changes. you "roll" into it before you know it.
before you go to partys and visite pubs, meet with a lot of people,talk ,drink etc with everybody.
the (biggest)amounth of people you get to know is at your most active social time, and that mostely is when your young.
when you grow older people break up,
when you get married you will be more isolating your self from the other. settle down , like i call it.
And then a child comes. your sosial life is now reduces to a few friends,parents, familie and maybe the neighbours.

so when married you will loose a lot of your "territory"

there are always exeptions ofcours!

*wonder when it happens to me ...* <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

For some persons this will never happen because they never get married <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Yup, nothing much changed here though.
Cheer up man! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />

I'll try <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Can't imagine losing all my friends and stuff :S
Guess I won't be going to marry soon in that case <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />
She'll have to wait <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />

@jvb, cheer up man life is to short to be depressed, and yes you are well liked here.

As for the marriage thing, yes your social life will change and so will hers. You may not hang out with all your friends as much but you will now meet new ones and have new experiences with them.

If you look at marriage from the other side, there is someone always there for you to talk to, share things with, for you to take care of and vise-versa, you don't have to be alone. When a child comes along it makes these things even better. Being a parent and a spouse is the best thing in the world.

Not having these things is what I miss the most. Now I'm depressed. Cheer up Goldy things are good and will get better, yeh they will get better when I stop talking to myself.

Thanks. Very encouraging. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/badsmile2.gif" alt="" />

Hi Alrik


It looks so horrible !
Do you want to get married and loose a lot of your "territory" !

Anyway as a man it is not important if you don't get married when you are young, because you don't have an hormonal clock as women for children.

I was a little sarcastic, don't be too mad at me !

Barta

Hi JvB!

Only a few days ago we had the "Get a life" topic and we all know what came out of it. The outcome was very disapointing for me, but I´ve learned something out of it.

And my conclusion is not to leave in order to get a life. The forum is part of our life, it may be an important or a not so important one but it is part of our lives and I´m happy because of that. Our forum gave me the opportunity to virtually meet people that I´m proud to know now. Although we never talked via PM you are one of those. Your humor and your presence are essential.

I can´t understand why you feel not beeing liked here anymore. JvB you are a great forum friend and I don´t want you to leave. I´m sure there is not a single person who really wants you to leave.

I could have similar feelings like you but I don´t. In the german section most of the "elder" members know each other in real life. Many of them visited Larian Studios. SO I could believe myself as an outsider but I don´t. There never was a forum which can be considered as a home, but this one comes very close.

JvB, you are an important part of this our home!

well said, bean old bean <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />
and everyone else too...barta, womble, bernhard.....same... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/up.gif" alt="" />
you ALL know by now.....nobody ever REALLY leaves, right JVB! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />
i felt like that a few times myself... up and down like a yo-yo,
or(like a hoars dress) if ya like that one better!! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/up.gif" alt="" />

JVB where ya goin dude! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/kissyou.gif" alt="" /> the game will be here....Pronto......
and the DEMO even sooner... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shhh.gif" alt="" /> ..then the fire will be back....
<img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/evilgrin1.gif" alt="" /> you'll see... freeze,...don't move,
stay right there!! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wave.gif" alt="" />

as what bean said much much earlier, there are a lot of ups & downs in life & this forum being full of real-life people also share the same ups & downs. there are those who felt that enough is enough & left. there are those who persist & stayed. there are those who lurked in the background. .... i'll leave the leaving part to u, jvb. it's your call. but to say that u feel unwelcomed .... now i hope that i'm not the one giving u the bad vibes. if so, please let me know & how & why did i do that.

& as for married life, yeah i guess that can change a person's social life a whole lot. but that is because both partners want it. otherwise, it's no business of theirs to get married & later on bitch about consequences. that's stupidity. a precious thing/someone isn't worth it unless it's worth sacrificing for. & yes, if u don't give up something for what u want, most likely u don't deserve it. u cannot have everything, u know. ask the married people around here; goldy, spick, womble, etc.. they have a lot of wisdom that u can learn.

to make it simple; jvb, stick around, ok? it takes everyone to make this forum happen & believe it or not, u're part of the family!

Very important ! I'm currently in my "down" phase, and unfortunately I don't know how long it will last.

OK you all,

Just give it a month or so. And you all be smiling happely again.

Feelings of being sad, bored, not loved,... are typical for winter time.
The dark, cold weather gets to ppl.
Ppl stay indoors more and don't feel so well in general. Ppl have more time to think and to worry.
That is a fact. I'm not just making this up.
It's just a passage of time we have to go through.
And that's just one of the reasons why we are on this forum. To cheer eachother up and be there.

And now that we all have something to look forward to again:

@to all
Be as happy as you can be. That's an order! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />

@to jvb
Doe niet zo gek, joh. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/delight.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />