thats whats great about the game. its always differant, no matter how many times played. this allows it to keep the player interested by doing things differant everytime.
when it comes to waiting to enter stormfist castle, it doesnt really matter how long you wait. you can go in right away if you choose. as long as you feel that your charactor has what it takes to get through.
dont worry about doing things out of order and breaking quests. if it happens, it happens. and besides, i dont think it is possible to break the neccesary quests to beat the game. only unimportant side-quests can be broke.
i just play as if it is real life. im not sure what il do next. whatever is conveinent.