Well, i do both...
At first i let us both have a "cooling off" period. Other wise, i might say something stupid i may regret (i have the red head temper...)
Then, i do talk about it...if it is something i think needs to be done. Otherwise, things can turn bitter if you keep it bottled inside - and in a relationship - i think it is important not to have any resentment, after all, that could turn ugly down the road. And - i agree that men often don't want to talk about it! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> But, i always make sure they will.
