Kejro:
I'm missing one factor though: hate (/aggression) by being taught to. What mummy and daddy tell you always has an influence as well. Which is sad, in some cases.
Btw, did I spell mummy correct...? <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" /> It's like... "mummy" <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/think.gif" alt="" />
Correct, I let out outer influence leading to a sort of Pawlow reflex (reacting automatically instead of searching yourself if your gut-reaction is still appropriate at the moment) - post would've become too long.
I like your pun, Teacher Kej =>
1. Mummy/Mommy as actual parental part (an expression for both parents/authority in my explanation)
2. Mummy as something that is conservated, fix and doesn't change - carved into stone, so to say.
Both are important - a child learns by watching/being told => parents are "gods" up to a certain age and explain the world, behaviour, approach - sadly even prejudice.
BUT if a child turns into an adult (hopefully earlier) - she/he should always question herself/himself if parental lessons are still convenient. If it doesn't, it follows mummy lessons blindly(the 2nd meaning) - can't grow, develop - is imprisoned in a "parental tomb". The key here again => self-questioning. The Mummy/Mommy-lesson (1st meaning) then turns into something vivid, kept by own free choice - maybe a bit altered.
Kiya
PS: If I say "brains" I don't mean cold intellectualism, BTW - maybe "reason" would be better, involves insight, caring emotions.