Yes that was important. Also important was the messages and the support I had from all the forum members. And it was my fault that I could not understand that joke back then.
No it was not your fault ! The joke was insulting and you have been hurted.
For spick it is worse than for you so he will need more support than you.
I don't judge the people who have made "the bad jokes" because both of them did not realise that they would hurt badly someone of the forum.
Barta