Did you go into the link at the end, Kej? I'm currently browsing the nvc org. site and checking, how often I use "jackal language" myself, by not using NVC principles.
http://www.cnvc.org/anger.htm Let�s really focus our consciousness on our human needs, feelings and need-fulfilling actions. Now anger is a feeling, but anger tells us that a cancerous intruder has come in. We have a need that isn�t getting met, therefore it is creating some feelings, but we are thinking in a way that serves domination systems, and this is putting a toxic energy into a natural system. Anger and its cousins, depression, guilt and shame, are all a part of domination systems.
Anger tells us we are thinking the bad guy is somebody else. With depression, guilt and shame we are the bad guy, these are the feelings that result from the thinking of domination systems.
What has this got to do with BD? I think a lot. This game seems to meet needs of some people and not in other cases. And I think both sides are not listening to the need of the other side (including me), but concentrating on their fulfilled need they get from BD or their not fullfilled need from BD.
We're all talking, who is listening?
