Sadly, been there done that, VOWED never to be that stupid again....
Letters results in him, finding "hidden reasons / motives" in everything, or pulling things out of context, it doesnt get the reaction you would expect at all.
I have a more subtle way of telling him things (it took me YEARS to perfect). Just give him suggestions once in a while... if you stop to "speak" to him about it, you get the wrong reaction... if you just mention something and then leave it, you amazingly enough will notice a positive result (for a while at least).
He is not a bad person at all.... he is a very caring person, he always helps, all in all he would be a very good parther [color:"orange"] If he can just learn to be more open about emotional stuff [/color]
I love to cuddle, touch, hold on to, hug, kiss, etc the people i love.... He complains when he has to hug / kiss his sister goodbye / hello... He is the same with emotions. Its as if he cannot DARE to be caught out that he has emotions or even care about yours.
Take a mental picture of the 7 year old boy that doesnt want him mom to kiss him goodbye at school.... keep that picture in mind.... now all you do is you replace the faces with adult faces..... PERFECT picture of me & hubby.
So... please note i am not UNHAPPY in my relationship..... i just have a sense of longing to make contact with the deeper emotional things in life... i grew up with them, so the lack of them is very noticable to me....
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When am busy breaking my brain over something (in this case a huge puzzle), i want you to come give me a hug, peek over my shoulder and help me find the missing link, before you move on to other things. I want US to smile gotether when we solved the mystery, I want US to look back at those events with pride <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
