First I apologize for this post being so lengthy.
How many of us actually use our real name(s) here on this forum and use them as our avatar names?
Isn’t that a simple form of a lie?
Oh, so you say it is role playing or maybe pretending, but isn’t someone who lies about their age, sex, or whatever etc…also role playing or pretending.
I did not want to post on this topic; because it is a topic that holds a great deal of pain for me, but after reading some of these posts I feel I must post something openly, whereas before I only PM’d my thoughts on the topic.
If you hire a clown to perform for a party isn’t that clown pretending; lying?
The clown isn’t who they really are.
When you watch the television or a movie, are not the actors and actresses pretending; lying?
The actors and actresses roles are not who they really are.
Thought:
Some people who are married on this forum whom I have PM’d has informed me that their spouse is super jealous of them being in contact with those of the opposite sex.
If the said spouse keeps in contact with those of the opposite sex isn’t that a form of lying to ones spouse?
I am NOT condemning such actions, so do not get all huffy on me if you think I’m pointing a finger at any of you.
I no longer PM these people, NOT, I repeat NOT, because I do not want to, but rather because I understand and respect how their spouse feels.
I am NOT Mr. Innocent, although I do joke with those I know that I am (chuckle), who here can truly claim such innocence? Who here can truly claim they have not withheld truths from others or say they have never lied?
The only time a lie bothers me from anyone is if they actually betray me or do something to actually hurt me via a lie.
I no longer have any personal face to face friends in my life; because they have always in some way or another betrayed me.
My standards for a face to face personal friend are very, very, very high and there is no giving ground.
Personal Story: I used to smoke cigars and I was on my way to see a friend. I had only enough coin on my person to either call my friend; because I was running late, because I hold my word as a sacred bond, or I could buy some cigars.
I called my friend and I went crazy not having any cigars.
I am NOT judging, but how many of you would do that for a friend or would you lie to them by not keeping your word and be late getting to them when you said you’d be there by a certain time.
True there is always some sort of situation that might pop up, but how many of said situations in our lives can we truly hold up as valid ones for not keeping our word to a friend.
We are all role playing, pretending in some form or another here on this forum.
We are all not letting people here see the whole and true of ourselves in some form or another.
The only time such lies, role playing, or pretending would really hurt someone is if two people are coming closer together as a love interest. It is then the pretending and role playing needs to chill out.
I make no illusions on those whom I have PM’d of the opposite sex and those of the same sex. I tell they guys I am not gay so if I am in contact with someone gay here they never get the wrong idea and I tell the girls I’m not trying to make moves on them; because I don’t want them to think I’m trying to be other than a friend. I do not want to betray that kind of trust.
If you ever find out someone here has lied to you, ask yourself this:
Did they ever directly hurt your feelings?
Did they ever whisper trusted secret PM’s to others that you asked them not to?
Did they ever directly harm you emotionally in any way?
Or
Did they bring joy to your heart?
Did they help put a smile on your face?
Where they there when you needed comfort?
Did they support you when you felt alone?
I could go on and on with the positive here.
Then that is what really matters.
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