@ Tsel -> just like Barta, i don't agree with the RPG forum comes with role-playing members. i don't. i am a 30-year-old malaysian male whose name is already known by those who read my posts (yes, it's public info now) & whose like/dislike is very well-known as well.

another thing; i cannot remember who posted this idea of equating holding back the truth with lie, that one i don't agree as well. not wanting to tell anyone that i prefer chocolate to vanilla is not the same as lying that i prefer vanilla to chocolate. i just don't want anyone to know. that's all. ok, that was just an example. this is truth -> i love chocolate more than any other flavour.

i understand your point of view, Tsel. i do the same thing. i find myself sharing more here than in real life. the level of intimacy (by that i mean friendship, nothing kinky & such) is almost as deep as that with my real life best friend (whom i have to let go eventually). in real life i'm a quiet mousy little fellow who replies a word with a word, not more. but thanks to the forum, especially the people in here, i am slowly fleshing out the real me in real life. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

@ Gal -> good for u. if u cannot tolerate being hurt again, u break away from the pain. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/up.gif" alt="" />

@ Shan -> we're very much alike. many times i have found those who lie are those who are hurt the most & they lie most of the time to themselves for comfort as well as others for assurance that everything is ok. i often ask myself as well if i am as honest as i think i am. i find that by putting myself on trial of fire (on a difficult test), i will find the real me. ugly it may be, but at least i know it is me.

@ Barta -> i hope your question is just a curiosity & doesn't mean that u're the one that's hurt. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" /> i hope u're ok.

@ Ube -> i hope u'll understand when i ask that u don't ask about who this Johnson is & try to bring out the painful past of the forum. u're a smart person who knows the difference of keeping the skeleton in the closet & putting things in perspective (what's past is past).

in general, my view on this topic;

if i ever find out who lies to me, firstly i will be like most people; hurt. secondly, i will be more careful around this person who lied to me. but i will not push him/her away totally. in the past i might. but no more as i learn to be more observant & forgiving (but i'm not perfect). after all, i lied before & i suspect that being human, i may lie again in the future. who knows? so who am i to condemn when i am also more than capable in lying?

i will do my best to forgive & ask the person why he/she has to lie. of course another big thing; if that person is not sorry for it, how can i forgive? <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/think.gif" alt="" />

@ Lady Rain -> oh come on! tell me u're kidding! u're not the goddess of the tide?! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cry.gif" alt="" />

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