Larian Studios Forums General Chat Chat (Anything) About lies

First i want to thank Galadriel, Ubereil, Alrik, Rincewind, Janggut, Master Guroth, MeaCulpa, for caring about me and for understanding the problem.

It is the spirit of this forum caring when one member has some problem.

"Un pour tous, tous pour un" as the three mousquetaires used to say.

Some members of this forum had problems before me. Most of the time because of bad PM.
At least two women and one man.

I just want to say to everybody : "Be careful with the PM".

During a long time i was feeling badly because i did not know what to do.
I was suspicious with everybody.
Loosing the confidence you have with people is awful.

Some people asked me what was going wrong with me and i gave them the answer.
Now i am feeling better and i think that i am able to forget (maybe later to forgive).






@ Setharmon

You are not funny at all.

Don't say "while they don't know what it's really about".

You know the subject of the topic.
It's about lies and how it's hurtful of not being able to find the truth.
I explained the problem in my previous post.

Of course you will not know the names of member A and member B and you will not know the awful things i have been told.
I still don't know the truth but these things were probably very bad gossips.




@ Virgo Bluefire

First i am happy to see you back.
Anyway this "simple subject blown completely out of proportion" could not happen to you.
Just because nobody in the forum PM you.

Not a happy bunny


Virgo it's better to have an empty mailbox than to receive bad PM.

Now there are 100 replies in this topic and most of them are interesting.
Sorry but talking about truth and lies is not futile.




@ Janggut

What happened to you for thinking things like that <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
A wisdom person as Rincewind could not be "sexually offensive". <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />



@ MeaCulpa

I agree with you. I don't have anything to say about member A and member B.
And it's time to stop talking about them. They don't deserve more.

However people can continue to give their opinion about lies in a general way.

Barta

PMs are not necessarily bad. Since the beginning of this New Forum I've accumulated 1166 PMs <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" /> and still have no bad feelings about this. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />

I guess it's time to delete some of them ... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

@ Alrik

Of course PM are not bad !
I have about 500 PM in my box.
I have deleted about 100 PM.

I remember the first PM i received from Kiya.
I was surprised, happy and very proud she had noticed me in the forum.
I also enjoyed receiving a PM from Arhu.
I never talked to him and he sent me a new pic for my avatar.

But for the moment i prefer not using the PM.

Barta

Im always here, you just need to know where to look. The topics that are formed are not conversation inspiring thus not attracting my attention fast.
Its better to have loved and not loved at all, and better to have been in welcome company then to be forever alone. Although i feel for your vulnerbility from a message of what could have been, I imagine someone who you placed trust in and felt close. Im sorry you felt pain, for its not the lies that hurt the most.

I don't care if it's funny or not.
It wasn't even ment to be funny.
It was more out of anoyment and frustration.

I never posted about the pm's I recieved. pm's are private and I see no need to discus them in the forum. If you have a problem with member A and member B, deal with it. Talk to them. Don't talk to them anymore,... whatever. But do something about it if it bothers you so much.
And don't go on and on and on about it in the forum. Making people wonder, starting rumours,... making forummembers wonder about eachother...
No one knows what it's really about becouse you don't want to tell. I'm not the only one who offered to you to talk about it in pm's/private. So if it's really bothering you that bad, and you don't want to confide in any of the other members, do something about it yourself.
Don't indulce in feeling sad about how awful a couple of forummembers are.

Most of the members pm with me. I never had a problem dealing with things they tell me. About themselves or about others. We handle things in pm's.

And I have a lot on my mind too.
gal fi. She knows what I'm involved in again lately. And why I'm more touchy I guess.
What the heck... I'm involved in helping abused women again. And one of the "cases" is pretty emotional becouse I know the person in question pretty well. She's a "freind" even. And at some point I was getting so frustrared about not being able/allowed to do more that I was ready to go kick the living daylights out of the people who abuse her.

When I was sitting here feeling very frustrated and with the whole thing on my mind constantly... I recieved a pm from gal. About something completely different. But we got to talk and I guess it just had to get out. She told me things I already knew. But important thing is that we talked, that I had someone who listened. And that I at least got it partly out of my system at that time.

There are lots of people here to talk to. And I personally prefer enjoying talking to the freinds I found here than feeling sad about a member A and a member B who don't get along. If they lied about eachother they probably lied to you too and you shouldn't believe half of what they told you.

To me this forum is not about a few ppl who talk bad but about all those other people who talk good.

Ask yourself what's more important. Feeling sad about 1 or 2 people or feeling happy about all other good people here.

If I had to wonder about that constantly, with the social work I do, I probably would have gone depressed and mental long ago.

If those A and B like to lie and be mean or sad or whatever. Let them. It's no reason for you to be the same.
Let them be who they want.

What I see daily makes me treasure this forum and the people I see here even more.

I hate to see you going on like this. You either pm me again and tell me all, till you get it out of your system. Or you deal with it yourself.
I want the old Barta back. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
That's all.

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I never wrote about pm's till now.
Sorry gal. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shame.gif" alt="" />
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[color:"orange"] I am happy to know that you are a friendly and helpful knight, just like Seth in Divine Divinity.
But you are completely off-topic. [/color]



I have also a social work and i wonder constantly about the the problems of other people and i am not depressed.

[color:"orange"]The forum is very huge if you don't like a topic, don't read it and don't post in it.

Your post is very agressive and i don't allow you to talk to me like that.

As i said before i have nothing more to add in this subject and i will not post anymore about it.
I also said : "Now i am feeling better and i think that i am able to forget (maybe later to forgive)". [/color]

Barta

with all that, i am asking everyone please please please NOT to reply to this thread anymore. let's respect Barta's request.

[color:"pink"] A drop of dye will ruin the whole pot of milk. [/color]
a malay saying.

end of the thread. (i hope)

p/s: let's not wonder/guess who those 2 people are. waste of time. it's better to think who are your 2 best friends on the forum. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> so let's move to happier things, ok?

@ Barta & Rince -> i meant that as a joke (Barta, i thought u remember). sorry if it hurts u. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />