[color:"pink"]How would you feel if you came home and found your significant other in bed with another person?[/color]
Shocked. Hurt. Betrayed and decieved, too. I don't know what my reaction would be once the shock would have passed...
[color:"pink"] Why would it bother you so much if you are just as guilty? [/color]
That second question is hard for me to answer, since I just couldn't do that. Cheating in a love relationship is as much a disrespect and betrayal of the significant other than of ourselves, by doing what we engaged ourselves not to do. I understand that each case is unique, but I just can't imagine any situation that would push me, get me stuck to the point that I would end up cheating on my loved-one...
When people are cheating on their beloved, it is because there is something lacking for them in the relationship. Love, passion and desire are not things that last by themselves, so in love relationships it has to be worked for, and for that there has to be a lot of communication between the two. When you are cheating on your significant one, there are serious problems in those two points, and you're probably not willing/able/up to to do what it could take for your relationship to fulfill you again.
So why does that bother so much people that are just as guilty (and especially those who suffer from their guilty feeling)? Because they were assuming that the significant one was still faithful to them. By discovering that their significant other is cheating on them, they discover that there was something that they did/could not provide to fulfill her/him, and that is something that can be hard on the conscience and ego. Because being betrayed and facing disrespect from someone you have such bonds with always hurt in some way. That's as Plowking said, you remain emotionally bond to the ones you loved, and that makes you more vulnerable to the pain disrespect may cause, even if the love between the two is drowning and that you already know it's over.
Well, that's all I had in mind for now... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wave.gif" alt="" />
