[color:"orange"] two of your best friends in a fight & none wants to lose. both wants u to choose Bush-style; either u're with me or u're against me. how do u make the choice & why? based on what? please be honest & don't worry about being right or wrong. i wonder how would one make such difficult choices & live with it. do u dare ask a friend to make choices u dare not take yourself? [/color]
When saying 'choose Bush like' I do not believe Janggut meant to say that the topic in question was a political one. To me, with the hardened fronts, it sounds more like an emotional issue.
I agree that asking 'sine qua non' is not friend-like. One should never do that to anyone, much less a respected friend.
How do you make a choice? Must I really? Could I not come to the conclusion that neither is right (or wrong)? For your own self-respect, never let anybody outside your own determine what is right or wrong - for you!
Whether you voice it or not may be a matter of circumstances. I also would try to moderate betweeen friends - search the common points, and work from there.
The most difficult choice may be the one where you lose both. A situation not uncommon in divorce/separation scenarios. But the priority should be on you, not on the one or the other - for yourself, I am positive, that's the best in the long run.
Other than that, it could help to remind yourself and the others that you're not friends because of that one issue, but for a multitude of other things commonly shared among you three. Respecting another's dissenting opinion on a single issue, is a major part in friendship, as well as in human relationship in general. Maybe they should be reminded of that.
In times of crisis it is of the utmost importance not to lose your head (Marie Antoinette)
