i think your friend is still somewhat traumatised by the whole thing (i think)so u need to give her some time & space to recover.
i know this is very hard for u but please hang on. as your friendship is as strong as u described, she will come back to be your friend again. because u care so much, u are a true friend. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I completely agree with janggut. Be patient. Time always help to solve this kind of problem.