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One very good friend is enough.
If you have many very good friends they become jealous from each other. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/alien.gif" alt="" />


@ Janggut


I guess it's because of my bad english but there is a misunderstanding.
My friends were americans and i lived with them and their children in Long Beach.
One evening during the summer the children were caught by the police because they were smoking on the beach.
The police took the children in jail and later they called the parents.
It was really awful for the children. They were only 15 or 16 years old.

Barta

We're not even very good friends anymore <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />. We used to be, but with time we've grown apart <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/sad.gif" alt="" />. He's the guy who got me into the amateru footballteam though, and we still like to talk to eachother (takeing that it has to be far apart with the moments, so we can have something to talk about <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />). I wonder what he's doing now, havn't seen him on MSN all week. Prehaps he's working...

Übereil

Friendship is very strange. You can be very close to a friend during some time then life can separate the people.
And later they can be close to each other again.

I have some friends since a very very long time but during all this time we stopped to talk during several years.
But we are still good friends.

Barta

I can only speak for California; not all, but many of the children in my State are becoming very disrespectful.
Honor and respect to others is slowly disappearing from their vocabulary.
What the police did, was an effort on their part, to hopefully scare the children into maybe not smoking, and hopefully cause them to think, and not do things they shouldn't later in life.
I am not saying what the police did is right or wrong, but I know that is why they did it.
The only reason why I know this is; because, I have had a few friends of mine, in my youth, have the same thing happen to them.
Did it work?
I don't know and I have not had any contact with those friends in over 22 years.

Tsel

@ Ube it takes time -in my case years- to build a good frienship. And I agree with the others. There is no need to have a great number of friends. The most important is not the number but the quality of your friends. You have to choose between the people you know or will know.

@ LadySarah
No the car hit me after work. However I was on the road to return to my home and really that time I felt so lonely. Nobody, I mean nobody came near me to see if I was ok. Not even the driver. But I am ok. And when I think about it there were good news yesterday after all. The car could have killed me. But it didn't. I don't know if this is good news for the people who have to bare with me <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" /> but it is for me <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/delight.gif" alt="" />

That driver was quite rude, both for hitting you and not even asking if you're ok. At least you ARE ok, and that's always good news.

Good news : I found a new avatar that I like! Also, I'm doing my first yellow belt demonstration this evening.

Bad news : Thinking about the demo stresses me.

You can try to train with your mind. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />

And when it's on, don't think - just do ! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />

I'll do that <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

More good news, I already found a backup avatar in case I get tired of this one soon.

Can I say one thing about "very good friends"?
I had two "very good friends" for many years. The first I met in elementary school, in the 4th grade and the other I met when I was doing my tests to get in to the army. The first one named K. was my best friend for more then 15 years, but from the moment I matched her with my brother in law, she became a snob and I was not good enough anymore for her. That happened very recently.
The other friend named L. was friends with me for 7 years, and she was supposed to be godmother of my son. But suddenly, she wrote a letter about everything that I told her in confidence about my life and send it to my husband. This was the most horrible act that a friend could do. She admitted later that she had gone to far with that letter. But my bound with her was brutally broken and I choose to never see her again.
That is my story of good friends. Now, I don't have any good friends anymore, only e handful of people that I like a lot.
I made a lot of friends here on forum, and I like to talk to you all. But I will never fully trust people anymore. Life made me that way. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/alien.gif" alt="" />

I made it in the other way, from one who thinks that he can trust nobody (and this was a fact i`ve learnd in a hard way), to someone who had learnd to trust. Sure, i cant look in the heard of others, but i feel that my life is richer than before. I dont will loose this again <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

My experience with good friends is quite the opposite. I still am a good friend with the girl that sat beside me in school. It's been 18 years now. We had our ups and downs mainly because from one point we had no time to see each other after we finished school. But we still talk and from time to time meet for a cup of coffee.

My second best friend was a girl I met when I was 19 after school with which we studied in the same school journalism. We had one thing in common : we did not like each other. We were completely different. We still are. But since we admitted that to each other we became the BEST friends ever. It would take me pages and pages to write about all those important things she did for me. When I told her that I have not seen my godmother since I was 4 she said that SHE will be my godmother and she does all those silly things godmothers do when the kids are small although we are over 30 years old. I am not sure that this means something to you but I assure you that it meant a lot to me. Not to mention all the other things she done for me because I don't want to get to any personal details.

My third best friend -a male- was the guy who was sitting next to me to the university. We are friends for 14 years. Although he is ready to get married now, he remembers to call me every day, to see if I am ok, if I had a proper lunch (I keep forgetting to eat) and he makes sure that I will go to all the live concerts I want to for free (he is a journalist in a paper and he has free entrance for such events). He tends to get a bit violent to the people that harm me. Again with that person we were totally different.

My fourth friend is a girl that I met in a drinking dungeon 6 years ago. Her job is to make hats and I asked her to make a hat for me. When she asked me how I would like it to be, I said that I will leave it up to her. I wanted her to make a hat of what she thought my personality was. She made me a hat with all the colours of the rainbow. One black stripe was in the middle. We are friends since then and our friendship was strong even when I met her with my FIFTH friend who after a while hurt her (but that was not his intention).

My fifth friend is that creep mentioned above. I know him for 20 years. There is a good reason for him to be a creep so I accept him as he is, having in mind that life was not actually very good to him. He tends to get into fights but his cause is good. He tries to protect his beloved ones. So I try to heal the bruises every time without comments.

Those are my best friends. There have been many people in my life but those five passed all "crash tests" and remained strong and true. Sure there were people that hurt me. People who betrayed my trust. People who took my heart and ripped it to pieces. But if I allowed this to make me lose my trust to people, then I wouldn't have those wonderful people around me. So my thinking is that it is worth it. It will always worth it for me.

Sorry for the long post.

PS I didn't mention my mate because it is obvious that he is one of my best friends.

Friends or Acquaintances??

that is really what you should ask, I probably have been lucky and have 2 friends in my life (1 deceased) that would actually do anything! for you, and yes I know many ppl but these are not "friends" they are acquaintances, so maybe I am too much of a cynic .... but this is me.

Now perhaps some ppl on this forum will get upset with me, because of the previous statement, and I should tell you all, however much I like you all, you are still ..... well perhaps I should use the term "Cyber Friends" as I don't know you in real life <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> so don't get upset if you are not that 1 friend mentioned above, you are still (all of you) a nice lot of ppl to talk to <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" /> and yes I do take as much care with you guys, as I do with my 1 real friend, cause you deserve it for the effort you put into this little community.

But I better shut up now it is hard enough to type with 1 foot in my mouth not too mention two, and I am getting perilously close to that <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />


PS Luc I just bought 2 Cartons of Cigarettes .... hmm hmm wink <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" /> wink <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" /> nudge nudge say no more <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/shhh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/kissyou.gif" alt="" />

oh and Barta Gitanes, Gauloise or .....? I smoked Gitanes for years before they stopped importing them here in Aus <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />

I agree. Friends would do anything for you. Acquaintances don't. My friends would do anything for me. Otherwise I wouldn't have mentioned them as friends. I don't like acquaintances now. Make me tyred.

(...) dream on Mea. Dream on... I am afraid that you will have to smoke them yourself <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />

All this talk about cigarettes made me realize that I'm glad I stopped smoking a few years ago. One less thing to worry about, not to mention the money these things cost lately <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

But one message made me very very happy today.
My friend came back!! Woohoo!! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/party.gif" alt="" />

btw Mea, we still "cyber"love you! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />

Good friends ... really good friends ...

One of my best friends, I know him from early elementary school or even of kindergarten times, he is one of the very few. But our ways parted, so we meet only once in a year - at his birthday party ! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" /> (I don't make birthday parties because I haven't got enough friends ... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" /> )

There are four more persons I consider as friends (one of them as a *very* good friend), but I don't think this would be of interest.

Good news! Stéphane (my sensei) said "Très bonne démo!" which translates to "Very good demo!". Also, I bought a wooden wakizashi and a han-bo, which means I can go to the ninjutsu summer camp next month!

The last good news is that there's absolutely no bad news <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />

I'm scared. I no longer want to meet you.

Now I have some bad news today because of you Lews <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cry.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wave.gif" alt="" /> I'm a bit lagging, as always...

@Lady_Sarah
I hope that your reflexions are going well? And that you have a sufficient delay to take a serene decision? I know what you mean, losing someone while you're away; I lost a dear friend from cancer while I went away too. Although we know that life goes on and that death is part of it, that we should not let it rule our decisions, it leaves with a staining sadness that we weren't there with him/her and that the fact that we were away has prevented us to enjoy the last moments we could have spent with them. But the fact it happened once doesn't mean it will happen twice... I hope you'll be happy whatever your decision you'll take. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/kissyou.gif" alt="" />

@Lews
I hope you're feeling better now. Damn, what do they do to you in these camps for all of you to come back in a such bad shape? And I hope you'll be able to get your cats rid of the fleas; it is such a pain... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/puppyeyes.gif" alt="" />

@Luc
It shocks me that people saw you being hit by a car and did nothing. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/suspicion.gif" alt="" /> Is that a common thing, or you were just very bad lucky in the people surrounding you at that time?
Anyway I hope you had nothing bad to that leg; when you get a blow like that (or a fracture, strain, whatever) puting ice on it as soon as possible (better less than 20 minutes after the injury) it reduces the swelling and the blue/black color that will appear and thus helps to "reduce" a bit of damage. In addition to lower the pain, of course.

@Ube
Whatever the number of friends you have and the kinds of relationships can fill your needs and enrich your life, the most important is for you to be happy. I'm sure you will finish by finding what you want and need, and be able to get it.

@Rythok
Congrats!

Good news: The girl takes a big lazy break for the evening. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Bad news: The work that I don't do toning will have to be done tomorrow... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/ouch.gif" alt="" />

lol. But you still scare me. All I have is my cats. =(