How we manage to raise our children without beating them? (Here I'll just add a note: I'm allmost 18, and have never been close to sellp with a girl, so I'm very far away from being a parent.) Well, as I see it, beating your children is a short cut to getting them to obey you. It's much simpler to beat your child if he does something wrong and then tell him you'll do it again if he/she does it again than teaching him that doing that thing is wrong. Teaching him takes longer if nothing else. So, the effect when beating him is on a short term: you'll get him to stop. This is great. On a short term that is. Let's put up an example: Your 5-year old son steals a toy car from your three-year old son. Your three year old son screams and your parents arrive, spanks the 5-year old and tells him not to do it again. By thin he'll lern that if he steals a toy car from his little brother he'll get punished. If he steals it and get away he won't get punished, so if he can do this it's right to do so. We've got what we in Sweden calls an eye-servant ie he only behaves when someone's there to make sure he behaves, because if no one is there he won't get caught, and then he won't have to behave. On a long term this will make them the kind of pepole Gal was talking about.
In Sweden though beating you child is illegal. So, if your 5-year old son steals a toy car from your 3-year old son, then you can't beat him and tell him you'll do it again and the problem is out of the picture, no, you have to teach him that stealing is wrong. This will eventually solve the problem, but it takes longer and it's a lot harder, but the result is a lot better. This is why I think beating your child should be illegal, because this force the parents to raise their children the hard way.
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