[color:"orange"]The french version is the dvd version so in theory no update to do for it, should I try it anyway to solve this women traits problem?[/color]
If the publisher has a patch on their site designed for the DVD version it would be safe to install. However, if you install the CD version patch over the DVD install of the game it will replace the executable (among other files) which will have the game looking for the play CD on startup (which you do not have), rather than the DVD.
[color:"orange"]In Baldur's Gate your character could change sex that's perhaps possible in DD to solve the problem?[/color]
Appearance (gender and class) can be changed (see
Some more hex offsets...), but I don't know if that is the only place gender information is stored. You could try it and see if it helps.