Most people can manage to keep their gender identity intact even when playing as a character not of their own gender. This is why no one is understanding what your problem is.
You seem to have a problem separating yourself from a fictional mass of polygons. If your sense of identity is so fragile that you are unable to play otherwise good games because there might *GASP* be a GIRL in them, that is your own problem.
I don't even want to be forced to have a female companion.
Seriously? Are you so hung up on this that you can't even play as the male if it means fictional interactions with a fictional female character?