For non-RPG games I would add "Ticket to Ride" or Zug um Zug originally.
I also like Carcassonne but we always end up in epic peasant wars with a particular friend, and there is always bleeding hearts afterwards, lol - but never to death.
If RPG is what you have in mind, a friend of mine was raving about a game where you have to more often than not co-operate to kill demons and close the gates they come from as they are so powerful, and success depends on surviving fear checks. He was meant to bring it for us to play but... borrowed to some fried, or other.
Anyone here knows the game I am referring to?
