I usually play female characters, I'm not complaining that I have to have Roderick hanging around. I actually give him all the manly duties like washing the dishes and cooking, he makes a great fish pie, and his bread is always perfect. All Scarlett needs to do is grunt in his general direction and she gets fed. He even runs into the middle of her fireballs hacking and slashing at Orcs, Undead, guards, fishermen... he even tried taking on Arhu because Scarlet wanted to raid his wizardly body.
Long story short Roderick wears the dress in that relationship.
Now OP please stop making these silly non-helpful posts every few months. We get that you either hate women or are afraid of them, Larian has addressed that. Raze has posted here confirming that what has been said before is still the case. So shut up about it already.