All that sounds to me is that you want to scum for exp and loot. Balancing content difficulty is impossible if you're allowed to scum. There is no "proper" amount of exp at any point with random respawns. Your sarcastic bullcrap is also rather funny, seeing as you really -aren't- in possession of some obvious truth.
Tell me, how do you balance an indefinitely high exp value when comparing it to bosses? There is a "recommended level" idea, but that's not balance. That's asking the player to balance himself instead of scumming or skipping enemies. He can have it as hard or easy as he likes in an RPG with random (re)spawns.
I'm sure that if you REALLY want it, too, then modding will be your way to get it, but telling Larian that they should change their game when they've pretty consistently done otherwise makes no sense, especially not with your argument. Play a different game if you really aren't satisfied with having to mod it in. It's your taste and not Larian's.
