"Too much hand-holding" is a bad excuse for bad or lacking design. If crafting and cooking just leads to frustration because it's too complicated and fuzzy and tedious it's just wasted programming. With too much hand-holding you maybe prevent exploring but with too little comfort you just make your game overly tedious and unwelcoming.
+1 for an option to show "clear receipes" in addition to the book texts
Still no argument here. Just trying to guess why this isn't already implemented based on Larian's usual MO.