The real issue here is as usual with Larian one of communication, when they say it isn't a feature in a live-stream 1 week before release, people are obviously gonna be a bit worried. Especially since it is a feature on their feature list.... and was a feature during KS (Not to mention after the PoE thing about romance options people were getting quite paranoid)
Currently I don't care what any character in D:OS has to say, because I know in the end, they are just opportunistic choices with no consequences. So I RP the choices, but I don't care about them in any way. Romance options add that factor, in BG2 you could get into the situation where you romance Jaheira that puts you in mortal combat against her. And don't tell me that wouldn't make you think a long hard while as to what you would do in that particular situation.