Personally I think the folks who are struggling with the game difficulty are rushing through the game too quickly...
There are allot of quests etc to get your experience up and better gear.
If you rush straight out of a town gate you are going to be in trouble and yes you will die frequently...
The right order of how to approach the area is really important, so yes first time round you will struggle with that. My advice is try out various areas if one is too hard, there will always be a manageable area for you and it's up to you to find it.
finally:
YOU ARE NOT ALL POWERFULL the game isn't supposed to give you a cake walk easy experience. One of the main parts is supposed to be the difficult combat. enjoy it !
