Yes I have shut everything down before hand, I have disabled my firewall, and I dont have an anti-virus, I only download one once every sunday to do a scan.

Creating a new game we still get disconnects even in character creation, and loading a save file from before it started doesnt change anything.

We havent tried switching who was hosting yet, I'll do that next.

Me and one of my friends have tried in a pair but I havent tried with my other friend yet so I can try that as well.