Love your response - thanks for commiserating with me! It's also reassuring that tighter rules in DnD rules may make for a better flow.

I want to be able to trigger just the guys we get close to in an area. Remember in D:OS2, where if you triggered one guy, it triggered the entire battle party? One guard sees you, so it jumps to absolutely everyone in the area, and all of a sudden you're swarmed with 6 guards, 4 archers on various levels, 2 mages and a pack of dogs? Man, it was just very overwhelming each time!

Here's hoping they veer away from that, this time around. It made me quite Pillars of Eternity, XCOM, etc.!