I'd also add to move away from the cartoony characters to something a little more immersive of D&D. Something like Tolkien elves, humans, orcs etc. Wizards and rangers. I'm assuming with the title being BG it will fall in line with existing style but brought up to date of course.
cartoony characters? If u are referring to graphics than I think that Dos2 has solid art, for example Pillars of eternity turned me off with theirs graphics approach, IDK if its a good or bad game, thats just my taste, I cant stand to watch hours on end and be immersed with static drawing action, its just not my thing and thats why I choose Pathfinder:kingmaker over Pillars of eternity but if u are referring to character development its not that bad in Dos2 especially in todays standards where its a trend to just pump out a game without ANY story whatsoever..
Uh it appears that you didnt start playing OS2 with your other players from the start.
What you discribe only happens when you drop into an already ongoing game.
Any character with the "Avatar" tag is treated as the main character, that means any player that begins the campaign will be treated as the "main character"
IDK about DE version coz Im just planing to play it with one bro but earlier version we started the new game both with new chars and it didnt work so IDK how is the deal now, we have to try it, but this is just my precautious post to be sure (hopefully Larian will read this XD), all other stuff dont really bothers me and whatever they come up I really have faith that they will deliver. Also this will be my first entry in BG universe, I only heard Praises about previos games so to me it would be pointless to debate turn vs pause and such topics.