Okay I hate to break it to you and I don't want to seem that I'm overly attacking your feelings, but if you were really following what Larian studios was putting out there in interviews before the game play demo. You would of understood that BG3 was going to be felt like a next generation game provided that they had lots of success with DO2 series, The tell tell signs were all over the place.
Why didn't I feel surprised when Swen showed us the gameplay demo? because I knew this was the direction they were going to go with the game and I love it. For me, if your a true DnD fan, you won't pass on this opportunity to play this game. Since, nostalgia isn't my only parameter to either buy/ not to buy a DnD game.
Having said that, I do agree with you that there can be improvement since the game is still buggy and not ready yet obviously. And some of the stuff you pointed out can be a give and take. I particularly would love options, options to toggle things on/off is always great.
I can't wait to see the combat difficulty option they have in store.