Really! I've never seen her there. I gave up wooing her when we were supposed to meet in Arx but she shot arrows at me in the fight with her boss. I'll likely play one more time to try the new updates - I'll be sure to woo her and see what happens (I guess I'll have to play a male the next time).
It actually doesn't matter which gender you pick for this one, you can woo her either way. She might still be in Arx in your current playthrough, just keep an eye out! I'm not sure if that gets messed up by what happened in your save.
