I agree with OP. That's the primary reason why I close to always play female characters. Because I HATE it when my character must look like a bulky brute. I have always hated how for example Blizzard always makes the male characters bulky. Even the male Blood Elf had unreasonably large shoulders. That's one of the many things that I love Dragon's Dogma for, considering in that game I can play a male character with the bodytype and body posture that I need my character to have in order to properly enjoy playing and looking at my character.
Right? Whenever I make a mage, I like doing the stereotypical old bookworm guy. Its hard to do that when he looks like he's been doing nothing but cramming protein shakes and lifting for the last 70 years.
