I can't do much to help you with your complaint about "games aren't for gamers", but... yeah, 5E doesn't have the amount of complexity in character creation that 3.5 does, and that is largely by design — in that editio, churning out new classes was basically the business model. In 5E, the focus is on other areas. If you love the "mini-game" of building 3.5 characters, you'll miss that in 5E. But, it has otger strengths, and tou can build an awesome archer as a fighter, rogue, or ranger, all with a different and unique feel.
Just not really in BG3 early access yet.
