Meh. I feel like all this stuff can be in a player's head. I don't want to have my interest tell me to pee on them or treat them like a poodle. That will definitely ruin it for me. People's kinks are a bit random and not decided by culture or gender or personality, so any romantic partner could have any kink, but by forcing a kink that romance would be less desirable to many. I liked Iron Bull as a character in DAI, but when he told my character he HAD to dominate them I was very disappointed, especially because my male/male romance options were very few.
We are not talking about extremes or something obligatory, just imagine that if you really wanted to, you could get from Iron Bull what you wanted with the help of dialogues. You could not accidentally see his domination, so players who are not interested would not suffer.
I don't want to see some disgusting extreme, but there is even dialogue in the game about tied hands, submission, and ecstasy in the eyes. It's ok, I'm really interested in this! I was upset by the no opportunity to say yes, I like it, keep going in that direction, let me obey.
And it seems to me that the Iron Bull did not have such strong tendencies for domination as Minthara and Laezel. It is obvious that they have such kinky, this is literally the lore of the game.
I really want it to be optional, and I can choose between romance and kink, but it's stupid not to give the player the opportunity to say that he likes the way his partner behaves.
This is already in the game, but I am missing the necessary dialogs
