Eh, how you view this depends on a) your experiences during the playthrough and b) you experiences in life.
On my first playthrough I got everyone interested and I was happy to be able to focus on the character I liked. I thought the romance was sweet and true to form. A bit of Tsundre with the armor going right back on the next day. If we ever do sleep together it will be the result of slow burn. And unless I turn her towards the light, Shar will always come first . . .
On the second playthrough I gave into my inner DOS2 player and blew the world to bits and saved the grove in 2 days. With only two full rests I couldn't get anyone to look in my direction. Astarian told me he had standards (which was a hilarious line btw), Wyll told me he preferred the company of his tankard and Shadowheart wanted to drink alone. Oh and Lae'zel told me I was hawt but that I had challenged her too often so I could go soak my head. Good thing I have a dog to sleep at my feet, right?
Perhaps because I've had on again, off again relationships in real life SH doesn't seem so weird and because a number of my relationships / hookups started the way Astarian's romance started it didn't seem too quick. I remember when I was supposedly a chaperone for a group of late teens on a field trip -- two days was enough to get most of them exchanging tent partners. My guess is that is jarring for people who are on the demisexual end of the spectrum.
Of course I'm all for more -- but if there is going to be more text and a slower burn Larian will need todo what BG2 / PsT did and have conversations start in the middle of street. My second playthrough is any indication there won't be much time to complete a romance on the current time table.
