"Unless you actively flirt with them and pursue them, Shadowheart, Gale, Wyll, even Lae'zel, do not come onto you"
This is simply untrue, no matter how you act or react they will come on to you, sure you can say no but it feels wierd instead of nice because it's forced and in a super unnatural wa.
To me Larian still needs to learn that less can be more.