Originally Posted by mrfuji3
Originally Posted by Balls
This is what I have encountered as well. You have to choose the romantic options, for them to take place, in my multiple playthroughs.

obviously you have to choose the romantic options for the actual romantic cinematics to take place.
but if you simply choose friendly options throughout the playthrough and happen to have enough approval, any/all of the companions all of a sudden come on to you during the same night.
There are very few flirting/hinting at romance dialogue options before that night, so it comes as a shock and ruins immersion/the relationships you thought you were building with the companions

I just don't think this is true.

Shadowheart and Gale do NOT come on to the player unless you have already selected romance options. I suspect that which options are considered friendly or romantic is part of the confusion (and why some games now include Heart tags so the player doesn't accidently initiate romance). 'ninjamanced' has been a thing in games for years. And Wyll doesn't romance at all yet.

Astarion & Lae'zel are the only two companions that come on to the player on their own . . . which I think makes total sense for Astarion and well, Lae'zel is Lae'zel.

I have seen many youtube playthroughs (of various games) where players picked romance options and were then surprised by the outcome. They typically weren't paying much attention to what they were selecting. Also it's possible that some language translations confuse the intent.