I've kinda missed these posts. There were so many of them in the first week or two after EA dropped.

Women don't need to be flowery and agreeable so that you can maintain your perception of them as waifish and frail princesses who would ever be so grateful if you would save them from themselves.
Being narrow and principled doesn't make someone a bitch, it makes them narrowed and principled.
I'm not a fan of Shadowheart, but your complaints are coming from a place of fragile masculinity.

I'm sure that there'll be some lawful good naive innocent girl who is hopelessly devoted to you and is all gumdrops and butterflies 24/7.
Unfortunately, Shadowheart likely isn't going to be someone that you can mold to your expectations.
If you don't like her, don't recruit her.

I don't want to fall to bits 'cos of excess existential thought.