As for Astarion, I thought it was a little funny but 'a little funny' doesn't hack it these days, I get it.
Not criticizing your joke. I was making a point, you are right. When we look at media these are the types of characters that are allowed to be queer.
When writing without sexuality in mind characters are also written without having to be characterized by loads and loads of stereotypes.
If they were to implement different sexualities into the game i would wish that they wrote a character first and then threw a dice to decide on their sexuality since it has no actual impact on character espacialy not in Ferún where queer people do not live in different conditions then the straights.
I think characters written to be queer are more often then not worse characters
(astarion is still heavily queer coded tho, no h8)