The stats and height of drow changed through editions. Initially female drow were taller and had better stats. Later, whrn Dritzz maje them popular, they started moving from very matriarcal to less and allowing make drow to be more than just grunt soldiers.
Drow never follow the premise of "evil matriarchal teocracy" yo the logical consequences. I mean, in the underdark, where food is scarce, being evil priestess, logic says that they would use a lot more undead as soldiers and have just a few male drow as breeding stock controlled by a matriarch. Compared to afgan women, male drows have it not so bad and still have oportunities. They get trained, allowed poweful positions and allowed to have properties instead of being property, neither they aren't mutilated so they don't feel pleasure with sex. And I get it, playing that won't be fun, but somehow I can't see the drow as evil and as matriarchal as they are supposed to be, since real world show what hate towards one sex looks like and drow are kind of mild compared to that. Hell, Thay wizards or zentarim are much worse.
Anyway, I think it is better to allow players to choose their height. It is fantasy and realism can be too grim.
