I mean, she's also rude, standoffish above and beyond acceptable expectations, condescending, holier-than-thou, smug and hypocritical, and she doesn't believe that turnabout is fair; she'll eagerly press you for details about private matters, get sniffy if you won't immediately spill your guts to her, demands that you reveal information about your experiences to her, and justify it as wanting to see how well your thoughts/beliefs align first, but will not at all respect you if you think or behave the same way towards her - and will in fact ramp up her condescending attitude towards you, or act like you're being an idiot, if you do so. Only for *her* though - *she's* the only one that you're stupid for keeping secrets from; she likes it when you deceive anyone else... oh and also has a fair pinch of racism thrown in, back-handed religious zealotry, and is the kind of personality that jumps at the opportunity to trash-talk and insult people who think differently from her.
I'm not sure whether your criticism is about the quality of her writing, or are you just being critical of her behavior. If it's the later, it's fine I guess, and a matter of personal tastes. Not to say I approve of her behavior or anything, I just think it is an interesting character to have. If you think it's a writing issue, I have to disagree. I think these "contradictions" in her behavior are intended. And it's clearly the start, not the end. I also think you kind of treats all of the dialogue you have with her as if it all happens at the same time... because a lot of what you talk about (how she is not willing to share anything but want to learn anything) gets addressed later (She tells you everything she knows other than her mission, and literally can't tell you much more).
But to answer your question, no, it's apparently not weird... Apparently, a lot of people don't find any of that off putting enough to overrule the fact that she's a conventionally attractive human-like female, and the only such available currently (discounting Minthara). Some also find her story compelling enough to overrule all of that; I'm trying to do so, but have not succeeded yet.
that oversimplification is not completely wrong, but I could say the same about Astarion and Gale and say that's the only reason they are so popular and call it a day. seems weak imo.
I'm doing a play through currently where I keep her in the party, do her events and play nice with her about her secrets as and when they come out.... my opinion of her behaviour is not *much* improved, considering that she suggested we talk about it at camp later, and then when I tried to her first response was to snap at me with anger about how *she* doesn't have to tell *me* anything... she's seemed a bit more reasonable in some places since I learned her secret (only achievable by passing *multiple* easy to fail checks, and forgoing other dialogue options forever in order to pursue them), and has been at least palatable on the journey so far... but she's certainly not seeming like the kind of person I, or most of my characters, would choose to associate with.
I don't know if I've hit her 'new' dialogue lines yet, the ones that are different from the original; folks have said I'll be able to tell, because they're jarring and different, but I don't actually know what and where they are, and so far I haven't encountered anything that feels like it's out of character for her, or obviously new or different.
The problem with her new dialogue is that it's really different than what you describe. Now since you don't like her so much, it will probably won't improve your opinion about it. that's why I am so opposed to it. I feel like if they wanted to change her, they should have made a much bigger change instead of this half assed one that just makes her inconsistent.
