Well, that is more light BDSM than rape. We all knew she was a dominatrix.
So what is your definition of toxic masculinity then? Because imo, Lae'zel clearly has it. How would a sex scene with a masculine guy that was requested be any different?
Toxic masculinity goes much further - and I did mix three characters traits together, including hers, to give an example earlier. But look at a Proud Boys rally - every single person there has toxic masculinity. They want to just intimidate anyone who disagrees with them and kill anyone who stands up to them while they yell and wave their phallic substitutes around.
Yeah, I guess your earlier example is better, I prefer a bit more abstract and not involving real world examples as it requires a lot of research to make informed comparisons accurately. Then again, like I said earlier, all characters have their flaws and that is absolutely fine, we have flat out evil companions, we as the player are allowed to murder children etc.
I guess my main point is - there is nothing wrong with someone wanting a traditionally masculine / feminine character in the party, you might not like those party members, I for example don't like the fact that Shadowheart is a zealot and manipulator, those are not positive qualities, but it's ok, and you don't have to romance anyone you don't like, Larian does a very good job of making sure you have control over such interactions.
