The sequence doesn't do a great job of communicating itself, but the important thing to key n is that your character is being influenced by more than one source, or at least they seem to be. The 'something inside you' that is mentioned reacting is not the same entity as your dream visitor, or so it seems - and it appears that the 'something' (many presume it to be the tadpole itself) would desperately like to destroy or see off your dream visitor. In the third dream, your character feels a strong urge to viciously attack your suitor; you can resist it, or give into it - if you give in or fail to resist it, you'll lash out at your suitor, who in turn gets mad at you, even though they know you're being influenced.
Ultimately, we don't have enough information yet to be certain of what is an error in consistence, what is incoherent, or what is supposed to be uncertain... but you're right in that these dreams are not at all handled well at the moment.
