I was very surprised my first run through when Astorian and gale propositioned me so suddenly. It felt off contextually, especially since I had barely interacted with either.

Gale hadn't even told me anything about his background. Astorian didn't surprise me as much because as you said, it fits his character.

Some build up would be nice, and maybe the option to turn people down a bit earlier would be good. (As in offer flirty dialog and have option to shut it down.)

Hopefully there will be more camp interactions after early release, because right now that seems lacking as I ran out of stuff about halfway through this run-through.

I also agree, it would be nice for some people to be able to toggle off certain aspects of the romance.

In my second run through I saved the Grove way early on (first round I had the big battle at the Grove and I was dying to see how I could save the Grove differently.

At that point even Astorian didn't want me. Lae'zel was the only one who propositioned me, and she scares me so I am good. I like the idea of adding some cultural tie ins for her.

BUT after that as Shadowheart began to think more highly of me she started to get flirty in the dialog. Seemed like a better build up potentially for full game romance. Said that I was twice as cute as a puppy at one point and not sarcastically.

However- My favorite RPG romance will always be in Skyrim because you can marry that cool orc Ghorza and she just kind of cracks me up she's so mean.