They fighting Drows too, especially the Tieflings, but they let you in, if you playing a Drow.
If they see, a goblinoid killing the attacking goblins, it will be the main reason to let you enter the grove. And yes, they will be warily and you have to suffer some disadvantages.
Yes that’s an issue I personally have. Like I said with monster races. When you build a certain narrative and your players go against it because they want to play whatever then you have to make concessions even if it breaks some of the immersion.
Drow would also not be welcome in the current scenario. If BG3 were tabletop and I were the DM, players who chose to play drow would be attacked and imprisoned. I think that reaction is more appropriate considering the current hostility.
