This is a touchy subject, and while I understand where people are coming from, it just feels awkward when you take into account immersion vs meta knowledge. I understand, support, and call people what they prefer to be called in real life, but in this kind of settings, most people are strangers and they do not know what you want to be called, and it may require additional resources to creating gating periodically if you need dialogue tree to make them call you a certain pronounce. Using a gender neutral pronounce would technically works, but they do not sound natural. I have not seen people use they/their under most circumstances. If they know what a person wants to be referred to as such, sure, but in general, they will not refer to you specifically as they/their. Maybe someone could convince me otherwise, but I don't see much merrit in multiple pronounce or gender netral for these dialogues on top of regular way people addressing a gender. On a side note, I find the whole gender pronounce is also very language dependent. In my native language, there is no masculine/feminine pronounce when you're referring to someone, so it's pretty interesting to see how passionate people are about it in English speaking community.
