I'd prefer patches when Larian feels they are good and ready to provide one. Same goes for updates.
I'm not the developer, so I sure as heck am not going to try and dictate how they proceed in developing their product.
I get to view the product as it is being developed, give my suggestions, comments and opinions to the developer - end of story.
I had the choice of buying the game in early access, or waiting until full release - I made my choice.
If I want to travel from Texas to Chicago, I get to choose my destination, my travel dates, my mode of transportation, what I eat while I travel - but I don't get to dictate the design of the vehicle.
If I contract to have a house built, I get to provide input into design and décor choices, but I don't get to dictate HOW the house is built, whether board a is connected to panel b by screws or nails is not my call.
You perfectly described a preorder of a game, not an early access where having a dialogue between developers and their audience is key. So far the communication has been lacking on one side of the table pretty heavily. Again, if you went into this early access expecting it to be nothing else than a preorder, just waiting for the final release, that's fine for you but other people expect a little bit more from a dialogue than talking to a wall.